Success is Achieved “BY” Helping Someone Else… Lesson 7

The Hardest Thing to Achieve – BUT will Lead to YOUR Success if you follow!

Okay, before you disagree, HEAR me out.  Anyone Successful person you read about, CARED about helping others.  Success is NOT a lonely road.  It is achieved by sharing your gifts and talents and dreams with others.  You cannot  win if you dont care about people.  This may be the hardest step for some of you but the most natural for others.  No matter where you fall, you can acquire this Gift.  Truly, caring about others is a Gift.  Now dont sit there thinking I’m a quack.  Think about this for a moment.  You have NO idea who I am, many of you may not even care.  Then I ask you, WHY am I doing this.  As I have mentioned to you before.  I care about young adults.  I know and see the struggles you go thru.  I Desire to share with you a way for you to BECOME the person you have always dreamed about.  You see, no one pays me to do this.  I have found my Passion and my Desire – and this is it   Whether I ever get 1 comment or Thank You makes NO difference to me.  If it did, I would have stopped after lesson 2.  YOU are my Success if you read these lessons and understand and follow these steps!

Do you get it now?  I cant Win without making a difference in someone else’s life.  I will continue to share my knowledge on here, in public, in person, wherever.  Everything we do in Life effects someone else.  We may not always See it, but it does.  What effect will YOU have on someone else?  Will it be positive or negative?  Remember in Lesson 1, we talked about everything we do in Life is positive or negative.  That means that every step you take to reach your Dream will be a positive or negative AND will be effecting people in the same way.  Now, don’t worry if you make a wrong choice along the way, everyone does.  The important thing is that you correct it and continue.

Share your Dreams with someone, help them achieve the same.  One more important thing that I was saving until the end although this may not be the end   If you have noticed, I have never told you that Success is measured in $$$$$.  It is measured by what YOU do with all you have learned.  When you start to Live your Dream, Share your Knowledge, your Talent – be ready to Give to someone else.  You are in control, be the Best you can be.  Change the Person you used to be and Become the Person you Need to be.  The one who attracts others.  Remember you put off a vibe – let it be one that cares.  You will have more people helping you achieve your Dream and You in turn will do the same.

***********Go for it Guys – You Can Be All You have ever Dreamed of – Now Pass it On!!!!*****************

 

Steps to Creating and Living Your Dream to Success Lesson 6

Choice – Committment- Positive Thinking – Focus

and NOW …….taking each Step with Determination!

Here is where the quitters will run.  What are you?  Are you strong enough to keep going?  Are the pressures from the world around you to big?  If I told you, that no matter what, your Dream is reachable, would you continue?

You have come way to far to give up.  Pull up your pants (some of you literally ) and begin Living Your life like you have already achieved it.  When people look at you, what do they see?  If you truly want everything we have talked about, then its time to start to grow up.  Remember when I made the comment in the last lesson about an “aura or vibe”?  This is Real.  When you are in any state of mind, your brain kinda sends off vibrations through your body.  Imagine this with me for a second:  you are walking down the street, its pitch black, you cant see a foot in front of you.  All of a sudden, you begin hearing foot steps behind you, you turn around and cant see anyone.  Within a few minutes, you cant stand it anymore and you begin to Run!  Why?  Your brain has told you that your consciousness was afraid – it sent a signal to your subconscious for a reaction – and guess what, without ever seeing anyone, you begin to run, your heart feels like its coming out of your chest and you can barely breathe.  When you are in your house, all of a sudden you consciousness tells you that you are now safe.  Guess what:  your heart slows down, you begin to breathe easier But still – you never saw anything and truly dont know if your safe.  Are you getting the picture of why its important to “trick” your consciousness?  Do you see how your brain sends a signal from one part to the other for a reaction?  If not, think about it again.

When you understand how every lesson falls into place, you will see why Determination can be easy or difficult.  I know, you are thinking “Im not changing the way I look for anyone” or “there is nothing wrong with my clothes” or ” I like my piercings”.  The point is:  I dont care about any of that BUT you NEED to.  Why?

I already told you that you are putting off a “vibe” and dont even know it.  If this is the exact type of vibe you need to reach others (so to speak) – then it better be one that will draw them closer to you.  I understand that you may feel the need to be yourself, be creative with your body, be popular, whatever.  The important thing is:  you can be all of these things but you must choose carefully how to express them.  I will guarantee you one thing: you will not see very many Successful people walking around with piercings on their faces or their pants dragging down to their knees.  Please dont misunderstand here:  I am not trashing you, I dont even know you.  What I am telling you is that most of Society objects to certain appearances.  Whether we like it or not, you must be willing to change a little to meet certain acceptable standards.  If I can sense your “vibes”, you are ticked off.  You are screaming and swearing at me and more.  Thats fine, I understand.  I will however say this again, If you are truly seeking Success, you need to understand, we ALL have had to make changes in our lives that sometimes are difficult.  You once again get to choose your Destiny.  I want to remind you of this:  why are you doing what your currently doing?  If it is worth not achieving your Dream, then by all means, continue.  If not, you had better get over it.

Are you Determined?  I dont just mean “yeah, Im ready”.  I mean “ARE YOU DETERMINED”?  This is a powerful word.  This means, under NO circumstance will you give up!  Picture this:  if you grasp the powerful meaning of Determination, there will be no one for you to Fail!  I am sure this will help you:  you see a fight at school, its the nerd and the bully.  The nerd is tired of being pushed around – today is his day – as the bully approaches and begins his routine, the nerd stands up.  The crowd is laughing and pointing.  The bully is in awe….he comes closer to the nerd and throws the first punch – hitting him in the face and knocking him to the ground.  Without hesitation, the nerd begins to stand back up.  The crowd is in disbelief.  The bully again throws a punch, knocking him to the ground.  Then something begins to happen.  The nerd is Determined, he wont stay down, he knows victory is within his grasp but he has to get back up.  Slowly he starts to stand up and he takes 2 steps toward the bully, as the bully begins to pull back for the third punch, the nerd lands one to the bully’s gut, then his face, then another.  The bully is out cold.  The entire crowd is clapping and screaming.  The nerd is no longer a nerd – what happened?  Queer story I know, but you get my point.  How many times in life do we see this?  The handicap person who can out perform a healthy person.  Why?  They are determined NOT to settle for anything less than what they want.

Are You Determined?

Determination will be a key to helping you take each step that you plan.  It will help you get back up when you trip down a flight of stairs.  This is what the “Hero” in every movie represents – you know, the one who never dies but walks out of the burning building and cut up.  What does the crowd see when a person with Determination stands before them?  You already know.  Isnt it worth the challenge?  Isnt it worth displaying?  Get up NOW and work on walking each step to your Success with DETERMINATION.  I promise you:  people will recognize it and will draw closer to you. 

Take the time to continue to review all of the previous lessons.  I hope you are sharing this with others and I hope you will leave comments if these lessons are helpful.  Remember:  YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOUR FUTURE, what will you choose to do with it? 

Until next time, Keep Determination if front of you.

Turning the “Dream” for “Success” into a REALITY Lesson 5

FOCUS FOCUS FOCUS!!!

Get  it ? This is the MOST important step here.  You have your committment statement in front of you, you have been reading it at least once a day, it is always in your mind as a Reality not a dream, there is no maybe only “when”, it is burning a hole in your mind which you cant get rid of —IT IS NOW A DESIRE!  Now that you have retrained your brain – you need to FOCUS.  In order to do that, you need to understand what Focus means.  No, you dont really know so keep reading

FOCUS is the ability to stay on course.  The ability to follow through unto completion.  A vision that is clearly defined.  These are MY definitions

Okay, take a look at the definitions.  If you read them through and think about them, hopefully it will all begin to make sense to you.  I want you to Focus on your Dream.  As you see, in my definition for Focus, there is no -”I will do it later when I have time”, “I completed one task, I will do the other ones later”, “I will skip this because I cant see the purpose”, etc.  IF, you want success, YOU WILL FOCUS on taking steps to get you there.  People who fail or who dont reach their Dream are the ones who lose Focus.  When you allow things or people to distract you, your mind begins to wander away from the Goal you had inbedded in it and soon your dream starts to slip away.  It is vital that you FOCUS on your Dream and the Steps you will need to take in order for you to Reach Success!  Are you understanding this point?

Picture a Pyramid – your Dream and Success are up at the very top.  You are on the ground.  As you begin to climb, you realize it is not a straight up shot, you need to go side to side then up and over etc.  What if you keep your eye on the Top  – instead of looking to the side or how someone else is going?  The shortest or quickest result is always when you are Focused because nothing or no one can deter you.  You will set in your mind exactly the steps you will need to take to reach your destiny.  As you begin to climb a Pyramid, you cant see the top – but you know it is there.  In your mind though, you can picture it and you can see yourself reaching it.  Therefore, it is easier for you to get there.  Is it clearer now?  I hope so.

Take out your committment statement for last week.  Now begin to FOCUS on achieving it.  Take out a piece of paper, on the bottom is YOU – on the top is your Dream.  You can draw a Pyramid if you like   Now, we need to begin taking steps (or writing them) that will get us closer to obtaining it.  I dont expect you to fill in all of the steps right now, some may not come for awhile.  The purpose of this is to get you to Think about how YOU will begin.  This could be as simple as: talking to someone in the profession, talking with a counselor if you are going to go to college, talk to family members, etc.  Remember though:  YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOUR FUTURE – some will not understand the plan you have set for yourself so be ready to share your “WHY” AND “YOUR DREAM” AND “YOUR HOW”.  Dont be afraid – it’s okay – your not stupid – you have put a lot of time and thought into your Dream up to this point.  There is no Doubt allowed here.  Go back and read everything you have accomplished up to this point – you will be amazed!  Now FOCUS on it, let it come to life like Santa was  

Each step you write down will be your guide to getting you to the top.  At some points you may not know the next step, thats okay.  You will find, as many other Successful men and women have found, that – that your Desire transmits something like an aura around you.  People will see it, feel it and respond to it.  You will find that as you get closer, others will be providing the next step for you   Sounds crazy I know, but trust me. Any successful person you read about – will have had an opportunity appear before them that was unexpected – meaning, they didnt know where it would come from – but they had Desire and Focus and KNEW that somehow it would happen. 

We are going to stay right here for now.  I want to make sure you have a solid foundation.  Go back and review all of our lessons and exercises.  Get your Whys in front of you.  Get your Dream in front of you.  Get your Desire in front of you.  Read all of them over and over everyday.  Read your committment everyday. 

Today is another new beginning – YOU ARE IN CONTROL – Live your Life with Meaning!  As you begin this journey, you will learn some very important Life Long Lessons.  We will talk about them later.  I will give you a hint:  Living Life to its Fullest will Require you to Care about others   Although this is Your Life and Your Dream – it is also Your Responsibility NOT to become Selfish – NO ONE can succeed in Life without caring about others.

Until next time guys – KEEP LIVING YOUR DREAM.

The Pursuit of “MY” Dream for Success!! Lesson 4

Time to Begin “Retraining” your Brain

As always, DO NOT READ THIS until you have completed the first 3 lessons.  It is essential to keep these lessons in order for you to completely understand how to begin realizing your Purpose and to begin to Fulfill it!

You now have your Dream identified from Lesson 3.  Now what?  I hope you followed my instructions and kept replaying your Dream and invisioning yourself already having it.  If you havent, thats okay, but you will need to keep it in front of you from now on and look at it, read it, and picture yourself with it – EVERYDAY!!!!  Write it out exactly as you see yourself – add more to it everyday if you want – but put it on your mirror, by your computer, on your dresser – wherever you will easily see it everyday.  Dont think Im crazy yet, I know this sounds ridiculous but picture something with me.  At this point, what would you say will hold you back from accomplishing your dream?  If you were like me, it could be a hundred reasons.  Why do you think that is?  I will tell you, as I shared with you in previous lessons, we have  unintentionally been taught that you “cant” do everything you desire, only a few people are successful maybe because they are luckier than we are, your not smart enough to achieve great things, etc.  My point is, you have been taught to “think” a certain way your entire life.  Now what I am asking you to do is– start to think a different way.  If you realize that in your past until now, you have learned to believe a certain way, you will understand that to change that “thinking” will take a “constant” retraining of your Brain.  Do you now understand why it is necessary to read your dream out loud everyday?  The more the better.  Lets go on.

Your first step is to understand the meaning of “Positive Thinking”.  If you have a Dream, a Purpose, whatever you would like to call it, you MUST understand in order to Achieve it, YOU MUST BELIEVE IT!  This is why Positive Thinking is so important.  You must have NO Doubt!  As you keep your Dream in your mind at all times, you will begin to trick your Brain into thinking it is already a Reality.  Do you remember how long you believed in Santa Claus – even though you NEVER saw him   It is the same thing, you believed in him and in your mind, he became REAL.  This is how I want you to treat your Dream.  Am I making sense to you now   This part is so important that it in itself could be an entire lesson.

Think about it this way – which will also help you later and you will see why.  When an older kid told you that there was no such thing as Santa, what happened?  You ran home, maybe crying, and told your mom that Sammy said there is no Santa.  Your mother most likely looked at you and said ” what do YOU believe”?  All of a sudden, you realized that you didnt care what others said, you Believed and that was all that mattered to you.  This is the same attitude you MUST take as you begin to pursue your Dream.

       POSITIVE THINKING IS A MUST!!!!!

Okay, you get it, I hear you.  NOW, taking the next step.  How the heck do you get started.  Maybe you cant afford college, maybe you dont think you need college, maybe you dont know what to take in college, maybe no one thinks you would be good at what you want to do, maybe ….maybe……maybe…… the list goes on.

So what!  Remember it is your Dream, your Purpose and NO ONE can take it from you, unless YOU let them.  As your Dream begins to become a Reality in your mind, you will find that along with it will come a burning Desire to Achieve it.  Read that again.  Thats right, the Dream becomes a Desire.  Have you ever met someone with Desire to Achieve something?  How about in school, maybe it is you or someone in your class that wanted to be Captain of the Football Team, or Head Cheerleader, or Student President — and they settled for nothing less than to work their butts off to get it.  That my friend is Desire.  A person who will not settle until their Dream or Desire is Real.   See, there is no maybe or I cant, there is only “When”.  I hope you are on the same page as me, these are important.

PAUSE HERE:  Refer back to Lesson 3 and your exercise.  Did you find anyone who Hates their job or what they are currently doing?  Why did they hate it?  If you did the “extra credit”, what would they like to do?

                 Many people, myself included, were never taught that Dreams really can come true.  They never knew that they actually had a choice in pursuing or not pursuing their dream.  Maybe things just got in the way and they thought they had to choose a safety net.   Maybe no one ever asked them what their Dreams were.  This is my purpose for you – I want you to understand that YOU HOLD THE KEY TO YOUR FUTURE - whether you choose to open it or leave it shut is entirely up to you.  The people that you spoke to, many of them never realized that they have the KEY in their possession.  It is NEVER to late to OPEN the door to a new beginning.  It may be frightening or scary – but trust me  – almost everything in Life – requires us to take a risk.  The only ones that fail – are the ones who give up trying.  Dont let that be you.

Okay, we have looked at why Positive Thinking is important.  We have looked at Achieving your Dream – Desire.  We looked at why some people havent achieved their Dreams.  This is only a small taste of these topics.  As I said earlier, I could talk all day about Positive Thinking alone and how important it is that YOU achieve it.  I could give you countless examples until you did get it but there is not enough room here to write it all.

In our last lessons you should have discovered your Dream, your Whys, your Purpose, your personality traits, etc.  This lesson we are starting to piece it together.  What I would like you to do now is:  write out a “Committment Statement”.  Huh?  Let me explain.  I want you to now take your Dream, and write a small or long paragraph “committing” yourself to accomplish that dream.  Here is an example:

 I am committing myself to achieve my Dream of becoming a __________.  I will do whatever it takes to reach my Dream.  I am not willing to turn back even if I meet a roadblock, I will continue to work towards accomplishing my Goal.  I will not allow anyone to pursuade me to give up.  This is my Dream and my Desire and I will reach it no matter how long it takes.  I know that giving up leads to Failure but understanding my Dream will give me Desire which will lead to Success.  I am committing myself to fulfilling my Purpose.  There is now no turning back for me, I am on a journey to fulfill my Quest.

***This is only an example but you get the picture.  You must begin to put your Dream into motion.  It will require you to identify your weakness and replace them with strengths.  That means, no more I cant, but only ” I can and will”.  This is your exercise so take you time, and then begin to read it everyday along with your other papers.  Remember, you need to do this to Retrain your Brain.  If you dont, your brain will think this is just another passing thought.  Repeatitive thinking causes your brain to believe it is truth.  It doesnt know reality from make believe.  We are tricking your brain into believing you are already a _________.  Your committment is your proof that you are already a ________________.

I know guys, there is alot in this lesson.  It is alot to comprehend but take your time reading through it.  You dont have to go through an exercise a week, just make sure you dont put it off.  If you are not FOCUSED on pursuing your Dream, you will not accomplish it.  So make sure you come back as soon as you finish one lesson to complete the next.

 

Examining the Past that Leads to YOUR Future Lesson 3

Checking Your List

Grab your papers and let’s get started.  You and I traveled back to your childhood, what did you find there?  As a child you most likely had No fear – you tried anything.  There was no trace in your mind that you could not do or be whatever came into your head.  Right?  Didnt you believe as you watched cartoons and movies that the characters were REAL and if you dressed up like them – YOU were them?  Who was your favorite?  Take a look at your paper – if you didnt write one down, take a little while and do it now before going on.

Alright, you have it in front of you – let’s take a look at this step first.  When you look at that character – list some things next to it that would describe it.  For example: Batman- mysterious, strong, cool, hero, fought for justice etc.  What do You see – maybe its not the same as anyone else would describe them – but thats fine.  You need to identify the characteristics of Your character through your own eyes.  Once again, take as long as you need – write as much as you want.

Next, what were your favorite memories from your childhood.  Was it a special vacation spot you went to?  Was it a game or sport you played?  Did you enjoy playing with your friends or family?  I know you thought about this last week – look at all your answers.  Now, tell me “Why” they were your favorite memories?  Example:  I used to go camping every weekend in the summer with my family and neighbors>  I was allowed to have freedom in the campground – we could run around and play – I loved the camp fire, it was cool to roast hot dogs and marshmallows, etc.

My favorite:  I asked you to DREAM – what would you want to be or do if you could?  What was your answer?  Let’s take a look at it together.   I want you to bring your Dream back into your mind now: think hard.  Can you see it?  Let it Grow- keep dreaming, what all is apart of this Dream?  Let me explain:  you are NOW in possession of the Dream – it is in YOUR control – for example, I want to be an architect:  I can SEE the buildings I am going to design – they are brilliant- I have business men lining up for ME to design their buildings – (you see, my Dream is growing now).  Keep writing as much as your mind creates. 

Now, back to the Dream.  Why did you pick that Dream?  Explain it to me.  How  would you describe yourself as this person in your dream?  Example: as an architect I would have power, strength, I would be a Hero so to speak to people, I would work with all different kinds of businesses, etc. 

Great!  Man, do you see everything you have accomplished up to this point.  LOOK at your paper – you now have:  your favorite characters and “why” they are your favorites.  You now have your favorite memories and “why” you chose them.  And last but not least, you have your Dream and what your future holds.  You want to get excited NOW — look at all the “Why’s” you have listed.  Is there anything similar between the 3 categories?  Pull those out and write them down.  All of the words you used to describe the characters are most likely closely related to YOUR personality!  Your favorite memories and the words you used to describe those are the traits or things that you hold close to your heart and YOU will need to incorporate them into your future.  Why?  Because they are part of your Foundation and it will make you strong – dont let them go – dont forget them – keep them fresh everyday in your mind.  Last but not least – YOUR DREAM- the words you used to describe it most likely resemble your personality.   Go back and look at your list to describe your favorite character, are they close to the ones you listed beside your dream.  If this is true guys – watch out – you have just discovered your FUTURE.  Why?  The road to success Lies “within” each one of us.  When you follow your “Purpose” in life, you will accomplish more than you can imagine.  You will be able to enjoy Success and Happiness doing exactly what you want.  REMEMBER:  You are in CONTROL of your DREAM — keep it in your mind at all times – dont forget about it — this is so important. 

Everyday: commit yourself to reliving the Dream just as before but now with more of an understanding that ‘IT HOLDS YOUR FUTURE”. 

Okay, then why do so many people hate their jobs.  Here is your next lesson:  ask them.  If you hear someone complaining about what they do, ask them why they hate it.  Write their answers down (of course later, not in front of them).  Do you want some extra credit   Ask them the same question I asked you last week.  If they could Dream and actually be anything they wanted to be, what would it be?  Write that answer down next to what they hate.

I already know what your going to ask about bringing your Dream to Life.  I cant afford it (school, a building, etc), I dont know how to get there, etc.  Guess what, yes you do.  We will take a look at all this next week, so stayed tuned for more excitement.  Dont forget to do your exercise for next week.  Cant remember, read the above paragraph again

 Are you getting excited yet?  If not, you need to go back to Lesson 1.  If I can help you with something, please please let me know.  I am here to give you a chance to Reach beyond your present and achieve your Purpose.   If you think these lessons are helpful, drop me a comment, if you think they are helping – send a friend to my blog and let them get started too.  Good Luck guys — Here’s to YOU and YOUR life!!!

Teens’ Guide for Success – Just the Beginning! Lesson 2

Can You Hear me Now!

Okay guys, I hope you read the first tip on getting you started.  If you didnt, you NEED to go back and read it!  It will do you no good here to skip around and simply try to get through this as quickly as you can.  In my opinion, if you came to this Blog, you came for a Reason — you may as well Fulfill it.  If you cant take these steps, you really dont want to change or make a difference in your Life.  Decide now what you want …. tip:  keep reading, I promise you this information I am giving you can make a world of difference in your life.

Great, Im glad you’re here!  I hope you understand one thing: I want to push you, I want you to succeed, I want you to be MORE than anyone thought YOU ever could.  Do you want to know a secret:  I know you CAN!  If you read this blog, and apply the strategies I am giving to you, you will achieve Great things and blow the world away

Our first lesson was about Choices and how they are in everything you do in Life.  I asked you to do an exercise that I hope you completed.  Anyone want to share some ideas of what they discovered?  If so, leave them in the comment section.  No one knows who you are so who cares.  I am going to tell you why it is important for you to do just that.

As you discover new truths about life, I want you to share it with a friend, your family, a co-worker etc.  Hold on, I have to tell you this first:  They Will Not Get IT!!!  Let me explain, as you begin sharing NEW ideas that offer a hint of SUCCESS – some people will run and hide or they will tell you that “YOU CAN’T DO IT”.  Isnt this what we talked about in the first lesson.  Choices.  Everyone has the ability to Choose what they want to be or do, some just find it to difficult to follow the one they desire and therefore Give Up.  After we get done with our lessons, THIS WILL NOT BE YOU!  You will learn that you can achieve Greatness – you can achieve your Dreams and Goals.  Once again guys, we go back to Choice.

Are you ready to go on.  Please reread the above as you need to get a hold of all I have shared with you up to this point. 

Alright, I asked you to discover choices either you made or that you noticed others made.  I also asked that in your head, you decide whether you thought it was a good choice or bad.  What were the consequences of the choices you observed? 

Now, I want you to take as much time here as you need: a day, a week, 2 weeks etc.  I want you to take a walk with me.  I am going to take you back to your childhood.  I will explain to you in the next lesson why we did this. 

 What types of games did you play?  What did you enjoy most about your childhood?  What are some of your favorite experiences?  Think hard, write them ALL down.  You will need this.

Next, I want you to think about something totally different.  If you could Dream and Your Dream was guaranteed to come true, what would you want to be?  Dont be ridiculous here: the first thing I am sure you are saying is: I want to win the lottery   That is NOT the right answer.  If this were a quiz, I would mark that Wrong   This is important, it’s your Dream, go ahead really dream.  Do you want to be an astronaut, an FBI agent, a baker, invent cool shoelaces — doesnt matter what it is — Be Real!  You need to take this exercise seriously — you will see why later.

This is not the same kind of questionnaire you have taken in the past to determine where your strengths are, we are dreaming here!  If you could choose what you would love to do or be – what is it?

I know at this point, you are either yelling that this is to hard, or you cant do it, or you dont know…blah blah blah.  So my next question is: are you a Quitter — do you stop as soon as something seems to get hard?  Well, get over it.  YOU CAN do this – the problem is NOT YOU — it is what you have been taught in the past.  Right now, before you give up — say this with me:  THERE IS NO LONGER ANYTHING SUCH AS I CAN’T!!!!!

You have so many ideas floating around inside your head – you just need to take a deep breath – close your eyes – and DREAM!  Think back to when you were little – you believed in Santa, Snow White and the 7 Dwarfs, Robinhood, and whatever else you watched.  Remember how at that time, these were so real.  I want you to take  your time and Dream, and then I want you to start to remember how you felt about the characters in your past – how real they were – and I want you to think of your Dream the same way.  You will see how your past is going to influence your future. 

Do you see why this lesson may take some time?  You have to begin to change the way you think.  If you will listen, and follow lesson one and this lesson, you will begin to feel and see something unbelievable in yourself.  In just these 2 lessons, you will start to discover: YOU are in control of your future AND you will begin learning how to get there

Are you excited now?  You should be.  This first 2 lessons are Hard.  I will let you in on a little secret.  These lessons are harder for Adults to achieve than they are for you.  Another secret:  many Adults have no idea how to achieve the success that you will discover.  I hope you get it!  In these lessons are critical steps that need to be taken in order to reach your dreams.  You may be the one to share them with your friends, family or whoever.  

I cant stress enough – how much I want you to take your time with these.  Discover it ALL – dont just think of 1 thing – go through all the questions I asked you.  Reread lesson 1 and this one again and again.  You will start to BUILD your foundation and be able to turn this Dream into a Reality!

 Go ahead, get your paper out and get started.  Let me know how your doing?  Let me know if you have questions.  Good Luck — you Future lies ahead -waiting for YOU to discover it!

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GIVING ADVICE TO TEENS FOR THEIR FUTURES – A DIFFERENT APPROACH -Lesson 1

Welcome Teens to YOUR new world!

Here we will explore YOU and what YOU want to be and do with the rest of your Life.  After all, it is your life isn’t it?

I feel really bad for you guys in todays world.  You have so much pressure to “BE” this awesome person and “CHOOSE” this awesome profession from family, teachers, friends etc.  The only problem with this is: NO ONE is asking YOU what YOU want to do with the rest of your life, we sometimes just try to scare you into something.  You get near your Junior year and you’re suppose to take all these tests to find out what you would be good at and then you are pressured to focus on that field.  Once again, good intent BUT the categories are very generic and how many of you actually walk away with any true idea of knowing “What you want to be when you grow up”? 

 That is my intent for this blog.  I hope to give you some things to think about.  I hope you can close this browser with some excitement about your future.  This should be an exciting time for you, but as I listened to my own children and their friends – so many of you are frightened about your future.  You feel like you have to know this very second what you want to be but no one is helping you figure it out.  Most of you think the Guidance Counselors at you school are Jokes.  They have good intent on helping you but it is a difficult position – UNLESS – you really take the time — TO LISTEN!

I want to share with you new ideas that were only taught to adults but should be shared with You guys!  I really feel that the things I share with you will spark your interest and help you to make better and wiser decisions – Based on You.

Lets get started.  If you have made it this far, I applaud you , high five, dab it up, whatever you guys do now — YOUR AWESOME!  You have just taken your first step to greatness!  Are you wondering why?  Good, I’ll tell you — you made a CHOICE.  Okay, so what I made a choice – oh but as we get going, let me tell you Life is Only about making Choices.  You made this one on your own – no teacher, or parent forcing you to.  Do you get it now?  Time to talk about that most important word.  Take out a pad of paper if you want and jot some stuff down.  No, there is no test on this Blog

CHOICE:  If you realize that everything in life is a Choice, you need to understand that every time you make one, there is a positive side to it AND a negative one.  For example, you are invited to go to a Party with your friends; drinking etc  , you have a choice to make.  When you make a choice – you live with the consequence – good or bad.  What I want you to do right now is:  start to think of everything you do or say in a different frame of mind.  Dont think of it as: everyone is going and doing this or that — relate it to the positive or negative of making a choice.  Do you understand this?  It is so important… if you get stuck here, you need to leave a comment so I can help you out.  There is NO dumb or stupid questions on this blog. 

CHOICE:  positive or negative, everything in Life is based on this, YOU will have consequences to both — CHOOSE which one will move you ahead in life OR 2 steps backward.

I know some of you at this point – are saying that you dont care what happens to you.  Really, I mean your still only a teenager how could a choice you make today effect your future.  You need to go back and read the above paragraph — this is the only Life you get – you can never take back a wrong choice – you live with it forever!  Dont believe me   Look around you for just one day – and begin to look at people and the choices they have made – try to determine whether you feel it was a positive one or a negative one.  Better yet, include yourself — look at where you are today and think about different choices you have made.  Were they moving you further ahead toward where you want to be OR did you get stuck OR even go backward.

This Blog is DEDICATED to YOU — take advantage of it – use this information to live YOUR life to its fullest.  Our next lesson will start you moving forward.  Are you ready for that or are you just going to stay where you are?  You, no matter who you are, are AWESOME and this world needs YOU to fulfill what you were meant to do.  Let’s hit it head on, shall we?

 I want you to READ this again — work on the things I asked you to above — get a good feel for looking at choices and their consequencse.  I promise you this:  you will always feel good about making a “positive choice”.  Always…. until the next lesson – good luck. 

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